In Praise Of The Good Mate
When a relationship is new, we normally talk about the good things about our partner. Whether you met them internet dating or in some other form, when love is new we can never say enough about the person we care about. We go on so much about them that we drive our closest friends crazy with a little bit too much information.
Wouldn’t it be great if things could remain that way? Well we all know that things change. Some good changes happen and some bag changes happen.
Let’s fast forward six months or even a year. Notice any changes? Chances are an outside observer wouldn’t even know we’re talking about the same person. What happened to all those wonder qualities we used to rant and rave about? They’ve turned into complaints; and our friends are rapidly becoming as tired of them as they did about the good things.
Disappointment happens in almost all relationships. You’ll get hurt, or you’ll hurt someone and it may even reach a point that you just want to call it quits. If you’re close to that point how about turning things around? Instead of only complaining, make it a point to talk up the good things about your partner.
Balance in life is truly important. It is important to be able to vent to someone about things and event tell them when you are mad at them, but it is also important to say good things about someone as well. Too much either way may not be healthy for the relationship and may create an imbalance for growth. The wrong balance would allow you to lose them as well.
Now, I am not saying that you should never say anything bad or good about your mate, but knowing when to share or how much to share is important. Sometimes before sharing it may be necessary to meditate or do some deep thinking about what is bothering you.
This will help you in two ways. It will allow you to gain some insight into the situation before talking to anyone. If you’ve given it plenty of thought and you’re still confused or upset, then you need to talk to someone. Go with your instincts on this one.
When this happens, talk about the situation but balance it with positive information as well as complaints about your mate. Giving both sides helps the person listening not just take your side. Sometimes the person listening will be able to find the positive and give you a way to praise your mate. Remember, there was something special about them that made you date them in the first place. Keeping this in mind will help you be able to approach what is going on with an open mind.
This article was developed by the writers of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read thousands more helpful dating articles.





