by Susan Treen
Professionals ‘prove’ passion can be ideal .. but it takes a year to flourish.
Disregard love at first sight – experts have found real love only begins after 12 months.
Investigation has exposed true love blossoms with time, particularly for men.
A six-month study of lovers who met through dating agencies found those who experienced true love had been together the longest.
Real love, what the experts call perfect love, is a perfect sense of balance of passion, closeness and loyalty.
Of the 15 couples who took part in the investigation, 61% described their feelings as this perfect type of love.
And of these, nearly all had been in their relationship for a year or more.
Other types well-known include -
Companiate Love: A relationship with high levels of understanding and commitment but lower levels of passion
Fondness Love: Where there’s familiarity, but with no passion or dedication
Dreamy Love: Understanding and passion devoid of commitment
Fatuous Love: Devotion with no passion or familiarity.
According to the study, men are more likely to discover genuine love than women.
Nearly 67% of men, compared with 57% of ladies, said they currently had complete love.
The investigation also discovered women were a good deal more probable to experience “liking love” than men.
The first stages of a relationship, or the “initial sight” stage, often reveals what boffins call “nonlove”, indicating low levels of closeness, passion and devotion.
“Love is an eminent forecaster of accomplishment, steadiness and relationship approval. It may be a multi-faceted notion, but love is viewed in our study as the mutual feelings of closeness, passion and promise that one has for a partner.”
“To date, there has been no organized study of love in the background of affairs formed via online dating websites.
“But with the status of online dating, it is vital that we appreciate the factors that influence satisfaction in relationships shaped in this way.”
World wide web dating sites are an ever more popular way to come across partners and have lost much of the stigma that once put people off.
Maud Garner, 42, and 37-year-old Alan Channock got together on 52sexy.com 16 months ago.
They immediately hit it off and have been inseparable ever since. The couple from Aberdare, South Glamorgan, initially met a couple of days after emailing one another.
Inside two months, they moved in together and last November had their first child, Brian.
They propose to get wedded in November next year and say they have in no way been happier.
Mandy Court and Project Manager Martin Davis appear to be experiencing “consummate love”.
Maud Garner, a Admin Consultant, said: “Stephen Moore and I had chatted so much by email and then chatted on the phone that meeting up wasn’t awkward.
“We already understood lots about each other so it was like meeting up with an mature friend.”
Their relationship became serious very rapidly and they decided they were right for each other after simply a couple months.
Maud Garner added: “We just clicked straight away.
“I can’t put my finger on it but when you come across somebody and the whole lot just falls into place, it’s painless.
“I believe we’d been together just a couple of weeks when I realised I was in love. At this point I can’t recall a time when I didn’t love Andrew Thomas.
“We had talked about starting a family and it was something that was going to be in our future.
“Charlie just came along ahead than expected.
“Things are as excellent now if not superior than they were when we initially got together, so I think the investigation is right.”
It supports our conviction that the world wide web and email does in fact give confidence old-fashioned courtship. This promotes a kind of loving courtship that can be sporadic when meeting possible partners on the inn scene.”
When you meet someone and the whole lot just falls into position, it’s simple!